"Healing" Grief, Part 2

Typically, I have a pretty negative attitude about diversions.  That is because the first thing that comes to mind with a diversion is that it's something that people do (work, drugs..) on purpose to avoid dealing with something else, coming to terms with something, or living in reality.  Because it's unpleasant.  Or because it hurts.  Or for any number of other reasons. 

With me, diversions get a big fail because, although they might make things easier in the short term, they are not an effective means of making things better for yourself in the long term. 

I am a firm believer that if/when something bad happens and negatively impacts you and your life, it is imperative that you sit right there and deal with it.  You have to feel the feelings.  You have to think the thoughts, you have to pray the prayers.  You have to.  It hurts.  It sucks.  It's the worst.  But that's the only way for you to eventually live again.  You have got to go through it.  It's the only way for it to become part of who you are and be able to continue on.

People who use diversions fool themselves.  They think that they're making themselves feel better and that eventually everything will just be better.  Wouldn't that be nice?  I believe that the problem/pain/heartache/incident, whatever, looms.  It just hovers around you and waits patiently.  And then when you just stop to rest or if you have a weak moment (that stuff's heavy to carry around), BAM!  There it is again.  It would be so exhausting and stressful to keep up such a charade!  And for all that trouble, all you've done is delay the inevitable.  It will be there waiting for you until you finally choose to accept it and go through the grieving process.