What would you do if your four year old peed on their bed, in the middle of the day, on purpose? Completely intentionally! Literally. Today my son walked upstairs (our bathroom is on the main level), went to his bed, pulled down his pants, and peed right on his sheets. I heard him talking about peeing on his bed over the monitor as I was downstairs bathing the baby. I got upstairs just in time to find him pulling his pants up.
I am still in disbelief. I am also still puzzling about what on earth would bring about a child doing such a thing. It is really nagging at me that it could potentially have something to do with the fact that this is a boy who still does not make it through the night without having accidents.
Further, I could not even fathom what the just punishment should be (especially if it is relating to some weird mental potty-frustration-bed thing). During our walk back down the steps I decided that 1-he would have to sit on the toilet for 35 minutes and 2-he would have to sleep on the pee sheets tonight. Is this an appropriate, send-the-right-message consequence for his actions? Did I royally mess up?
What in the world is going on here? Help!!?
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Wow, I don't know why he would do that. Maybe it is related to 'peeing the bed' at night. Was he defiant about it, like "Yeah, I knew it was wrong...and did it anyway." Or more "oops, I totally forgot that pee goes somewhere else."
ReplyDeleteI'd say maybe having him clean up the bed himself would be a fitting punishment. Tear down the sheets, put them in the washer, lay more sheets on the bed as best he can. Or just not *letting* him sleep in his own bed tonight because he messed it up earlier. A pallet on the floor might not be his favorite thing. But if he sees that as more of an adventure, that wouldn't be a good consequence. :)
I just don't know.
How did I miss all of these posts? I catch up in my google thing in the dashboard of my blog. I'm going to double check to make sure that your posts are popping up. I think I have a suggestion for this but I'll stop back later, as it is nearly midnight and I am falling asleep at the wheel ... I mean ... the keyboard. ;) Be back soon.
ReplyDeleteThis has happened to us, the wetting somewhere other than the toilet just-because-he-can thing.
ReplyDeleteMy husband says he would throw some cheerios in the toilet (incentive) and if the behavior was repeated, he would spank. He says that the boy is probably fascinated with his you know what and his ability to project his urine. I know my boys were. (Is there an emoticon for rolling eyes?)
If I were the one at home, I would pull the sheets off right away (to avoid smell) and send the boy to his room for a long time while I cooled off. My 4 1/2 year old boy has spent many hours on many different days in his room, without toys, waiting for his father to come home. :S That's what I do when I'm at my wit's end. I would spank for a repeat, but not all parents spank; you guys might not. I would definitely come up with some kind of punishment for that behavior since he knew better.
In the past, I've had my kids sit in time out while I clean up the mess that they made (but are incapable of cleaning up) and then they have to do some sort of extra chore of something for me since they wasted my time.
That's a tough one! Good luck!